Something New

Yesterday, KU and I finally went for our first moviemob session together! *beams* I know many people would have most probably been to many moviemob or outdoor movie events, and it's no big deal to them. But this is something which KU and I have thought of doing together since some time back and it just so happened that the previous few moviemob sessions were either at super ulu places or on dates when one of us had something important on. :x

But anyway, FINALLY this moviemob session was at an accessible place (Asian Civilisation Museum) and the movie shown was rather okay (Indiana Jones and the Raiders of the Lost Ark), so we decided very quickly that we were going. :)

And I thought that this came at a really appropriate time cos just on Thursday, when we had our marriage mentoring session with Uncle WM and Aunty Kat, I mentioned that I want to do new things with KU so that I won't feel that our relationship is bland. Anddd.. tadah.. new thing done together on Saturday! :)

One thing which I would do differently the next time we go for an outdoor movie screening together though, I will make our own picnic food. I saw quite a few families bring food and drinks from home and I wished that we had more time to prepare for it. But it's ok - something to look forward to again for the next session. :) Just gotta standby a picnic menu and some recipes for the day!

The Vow + A New Perspective

'The Vow' was a movie which I've been looking forward to watching for a reaalllllyyyy long time ever since I saw the trailer! The touching storyline, the fact that the show's inspired by real-life events and the bonus of having Channing Tatum and Rachel McAdams acting as the leads appealed greatly to me.

So anyway, I finally caught 'The Vow' with KU on Good Friday and boy, did I cry buckets. I've always been a sucker for sad, romantic movies and this one really allowed me to cry my heart out. I'm not going to delve into the story cos most people would have watched it already anyway, but there's one quote which stuck in my mind and spoke to heart which I would like to share.

*Slight spoiler alert. Don't say I didn't warn you!*

In the second half of the movie, when Paige (McAdams) discovered that the reason she left her home in the countryside and move to the city was that her father had cheated on her mother with her friend. Devastated and angry, she stomped home and confronted her mother about it, asking her why did she not leave her father. And this was what Paige's mother replied:

"I chose to stay with him for all the things he's done right; not the one thing he's done wrong. I chose to forgive him."

Somehow this simple sentence blew me away and brought a whole new perspective to how I see women who forgave their cheating husbands. Honestly, I used to think that such women weren't in their right minds cos I'm all what's-wrong-you-why-don't-you-stand-up-for-your-wifely-rights-and-leave-the-b*****d.

I know I'm going to be e-stoned for saying such things but, trust me, I can understand how it hurts, cos I do have relatives who have gone through such pain, and I have gone through something similar, which is why I'm so angry and adamant that women should not give cheating boyfriends/lovers/spouses second chances.

But this quote made me think twice cos, we are all humans, and men are humans too, so they do make mistakes. Some make small mistakes, some make big mistakes (and cheating, to me, is the worst, most heinous mistake someone can ever make). But most people do the right thing most of the time. So instead of jumping on someone for making one mistake, maybe I could try to look at all the good things that someone has done.

That being said, this doesn't mean that I will definitely forgive my spouse if he cheats on me. But perhaps it will show me a new way of seeing the situation (that is, if I even want to see it this way).